PAIN MAKES US STRONGER, TEARS MAKES US WISER , UNDUE ADVANTAGE OF YOU TAKEN BY PEOPLE IS NOT YOUR MISFORTUNE BUT ITS  A STEP TOWARD SELF REALIZATION. THANKS THEM :D

 a good heart: means You help too much, you trust too much, you give too much, you love too much and it always seems like you’re  the one who gets hurt the most.

REINVENT FEMININITY

Be a woman who need not to beg others to take care of you, rather people must beg you for your divine presence in their life.

DESIRE VS REQUIREMENT

An age old argument for human has been a topic 'desire'. It is not taught at any stage of life, but acquired as we come across worldly attachments. It was a toy when we were child and now it has extended it's limits so far. Desire is a temptation which arises when we fails to balance our requirements. So, it is must to understand the difference between requirement and desire. Wishing for a piece of bread and butter when hungry is requirement , whereas wishing for a dessert after meal is desire. Desire may curb our level of humanity, as it is selfish one. It doesn't look into exact scenario, rather than quenching it's own demands. 

By the way it is contradictory that human civilization has built its science,art and technology based empire on the able guidance of desire to lead better life. But, inventions are always the consequence of needs. So, it may be said that invention of telephone by Graham Bell was a consequence of need, whereas eye candies smart phone now a days in market are consequence of desire to achieve more and more sophisticated & lethargic life. Every need beyond it's limit transforms into desire. And when desire comes into play, it expands day after day and at last leading to that big bang.

Human emotions are always a form of desires, that's why they lead to pain in odd conditions. A motherly affection toward child is a requirement since the new one has to be introduced to love and emotions, but the same child transforms his acquired emotions into desire when he starts neglecting his needs. So, in order to avoid desires, it's essential to correctly value our needs. Once the desire build nest in our mind, it is hard to evacuate that. So, prevention is better than cure.

HOPE YOU STARTED REALIZING THE NEEDS.

ISOLATED ONE

Isolation is generally believed to bring out the more intellectual side of us, only and only if accompanied by control over our perceptions. Isolation may enlighten us or may even ruin. But what about such a life where you don't find life around you and feeling stuck in a zombie world. Everyone just want us to be perfect at work and toil to starve. Isolation need not to be a term when we are alone but it may also be a situation when in spite of living in a crowded place you find no one able to understand us. Reckless professional expectations, trying to stretch our capacities in foolish way, over expectations at results, greed to achieve more and more etc have made us isolated even in the crowd. Humble feelings and relations are the wonder tonic for such complexions. An unconditional love, warm hug this is what all we need to keep loneliness at bay. Hectic race for fame has made human a machine constantly squeezing his talents to fetch glory. But a balanced approach for life truly bring positive side of life. We are not ready to sacrifice for our loved ones, just all we need is to thrive for the success. Try doing little sacrifices and later you will find your world within a single person. That is the stage where even presence of your loved one will make you feel heaven  in the hell.

There by it may be concluded that loneliness is just a state of mind rather than a physical thing. Either we must create a mind set up dedicated to our faith/love or engage yourself busy in social life. The second option will give you an instant but temporary satisfaction. So, better we try dedicating our self to the script less language (love) and see our world in their smile.

SHOULD I?

Nature has designed we humans to explore her cryptic features. So, curiosity is the part and parcel of us. Once a question knocks our mind, we become curious and impatient for the things to be known. And I strongly believe that we must explore for getting the answers. But most of us have an another trait which commands us 'why should I ?'. That's the point where we sink the genius within us. Do not suppress your curiosity, but let it ignite the dark chambers within our mind and enlighten knowledge. In fact curiosity is the driving force which made us human diversify from other ordinary life forms. The history is evident that whenever curiosity or thirst for knowing new things have arisen, there bloomed a big bang called 'revolution'. 

That's the reason why sailors sailed out of the odd conditions and reached unknown lands which led to construction of unified globe. Curious brains in past dared exploring myths in new ways and led to scientific discoveries. They never thought 'why should I pioneer this uncertain adventure' and just think what would be consequences if they ever thought like this. Well, it's human nature to flee away the uncertain things that are supposed to cause danger to existence. But, again I would remind the readers 'darr ke aage jeet hai' (beyond fear lies victory) and it's my damn favorite punch line derived from a soft drink commercial. Those pioneering sailors and scientists belonged that specific trait who believe in 'darr ke aage jeet hai'. We must thank them everyday for such a brave decisions. The fuel which energized them against the hidden danger was 'curiosity' and it's great to tame the curiosity within us rather than neglecting it. It is not mandatory that only a genius can be a scientist or an achiever, but the trait which is more important is curiosity. 

So, next time when any question hit your mind, don't kick it away rather nourish it and explore for the answer.

LET’S  PLAY  LIFE

Since childhood everyone of us has nourished a playful innocent intention toward the moments in life. Gradually it is suppressed due to our mature side of personality, but I'm sure it never diminishes. Bringing out that childish thing out of us is the main reason why we spent time and money in outings,camping, picnics, watching sport etc. What I understand is there is no need to do such extravagances to pop out  childhood within us, all we need is a everyday approach conversion from a serious being to a sensible kid. 

Try making your colleagues, friends, kids, laugh at the moment which seems like a headache. For doing so  you may have to turn into a clown, but trust me you will get tremendous happiness when someone tensed  laugh out due to your behavior. That’s all we need to keep the child within us alive. Your medical bill shall  also cut down if you ever tried doing these mischievous things. People will definitely suggest to ‘grow up’  but they will soon realize themselves as lucky to get such an amazing personality as their friend. You might  have watched  how does a DJ turns the disk and brings out amazing music out a regular song. So be a DJ of  your life, turn briskly your sense of humor and good mood and everyone will rock in your’s party. A  monotonous life will soon be a everyday dazzling colorful party. You will soon feel your workplace as a  dance floor and your heavy stuffed laptop as a turntable disc. Then no more you will face Monday blues or weekend antsy. No matter if your employer has nominated you for best employee of the year, but sure your colleagues will declare you as the rock star.

So, what are you waiting for, lets party and rock at office. Have a joyful day.

An anchored feather

Title must be bifurcating, it has a different prospective for people with extrovert and frank nature. Well,  feathers in nature are always anchored with the bird, but I’m talking about an individual residue.  Let’s take our thinking and actions as feather , it has full degree of freedom to flew away in direction the wind blows. But it does not make any sense until and unless we are able to anchor it with a certain code of 

conducts and etiquette.

 It actually make us a human and it’s absence makes the creature as an animal. In other words I may tell it as self discipline or self control over our own senses. This quality is so much essential for a good  leader,  good entrepreneur  and more over a good human. Lack of control over our desires may flew the feather in a wrong direction leading to lot of troubles and loss of predetermined goals of our life. Our very first lesson for such self discipline was taught when our parents admitted us to school. We start leading our life according to a time table, no matter how careless is a child towards his class works but anyhow he or she comes in contact with a prescribed schedule. I don't believe in suffocating and suppressing kids which hampers their childhood but under a kind guidance they must be introduced to punctuality  and self discipline. Even army officer's training is nothing but oriented toward making them capable of taking right decisions in odd conditions and that comes when they are trained to practice self discipline. Every innovator or a successful person achieved only because they channelized route for achievement with the help of a tool called self discipline. It's really disappointing to say that the most of the criminal cases arise only because the guilty had no control over his anger and temperament. They just killed someone out their bad temper, it sounds wired that people  rather than controlling their own temper try to cancel out others existence. The examples for such scenario are so much in number. 

Our religious scripts are mainly focused to make our mind calm and impart a self controlled approach toward the dilemmas arising everyday in life . That's the thing we must remind before praying in front of God, otherwise please do not disturb the Almighty. 

My conclusion for this article is 'being human' is nothing but 'only those with self control', otherwise next time you find a tee for you with punch word 'being animal'. Sorry for my words, but you question yourself whether I am wrong or right.

Thanks for reading my harsh comments, have a nice day.

OVER EXPECTATIONS 

It's human nature to rely on the people surrounding us, that is not uncommon but things goes strange when the term 'rely' is replaced by 'over expectations'. Expectation is an outcome of inputs that we have given for the results whereas over expectation is an abstract awaiting for miracles to happen in spite of zero input. Everyone of us knows the Newton's third law 'every action has equal and opposite reaction'. When actually you have toiled for some results, it comes out with same intensity and as a result we get satisfactory. But in the case if we have not spent enough energy for getting a desired outcome and still waiting to get an elephant out of hen's egg, its a foolishness. Definitely it is going to dis motivate for your goals. Keep a weighing balance inspired approach in your life. On one plate you are placing your hard work and proportionately you will get the results. It's damn easy in such a way to avoid over expectations. Over expecting from ourselves is a crime then what about over expecting from others. Certainly I shall call it the height of foolishness. 

We generally mislead sympathy of some people as affection and dreaming about their assistance or favors. And when things turn opposite we feel break down. As a result of such heart break, we loses our working stamina and consequently it leads to failures. Generally we blame this failure as a misfortune created by the person from whom we expected and further it leads to ruining of the relations. So it's a vicious cycle of emotions. Okay, if over expectations have such a disappointing results, why do we opt for it. The reason behind it is a child inside us and that one is so lazy to carry out his own work, he wanna rely on mommy for tying his shoe lace. Are you grown up, if yes then don't repeat this mistake , tie your shoe lace yourself. You will fail once, twice or thrice but at fourth chance definitely you shall succeed. Now you don't need mamma :D. 

Next time when you feel like over expecting from someone, remember that the person too have his own sort of problem. He is probably struggling more than you, so try to give him his personal space to deal with. It shall never worsen your relations rather giving a little gap will enhance your  understanding.

That's all for today, but stay tuned there are more upcoming lessons I wanna share with my lovely readers.

Have a nice and fruitful day.

   

'Die Another Day'

You must be thinking that today I am going to explain the lyrics written by Madonna. But certainly not, this line was so inspiring; no matter what  it serve for the song. It is said that when you enter your intellectual mode everything around you inspire to write. Today morning I was hearing to the song because of my morning fatigue. Every Bond movie comes with an unique song and most of them like 'you live only twice', 'diamonds are forever', 'the world is not enough' and so on ; all these line are no lesser than an inspirational guru. 

'Die another day' in itself has a meaning emphasizing 'do not let the hope'. Its my take over the line. Live one more day, so that you utilize upcoming 24 hours which could actually change your destiny. Sounds wow. You might drowned every time into Madonna's silky bold voice while hearing that, but I thought upon it. Not bad idea, hope more and treat the extra time you got as an opportunity to escape the fore-coming bad fortune. This line could be really motivating if you have ever failed in an interview and thinking to run away from the next rush. It happened with me once, I dropped my admission at an university. After that I felt really desperate but this one motivated to extend my stamina and stretch my capacities until I appear for next entrance exam. 

Upholding the hope is not an easy task sometime, but we have to do that since it is more important than doing the thing actually. If there is a hope there is a way. God never shuts all the door for us, all we need is hope and trust for good happenings. It is said that God has planned always a better route for us,contradiction it doesn't mean that we must neglect the opportunities. I am pointing toward the conditions when judgement is not our hand. Just relax, continue your efforts and soon you will get the zenith. 

My mom has always thought me 'Take all the circumstances like a wet clay, and be a potter of your own life'. She is awesome, thank you mamma. I do heed her lines as much as possible and this lines a free of cost treat from my wards to my readers, because its my mom special recipe :).

HOPE I SUCCEEDED AT LEAST LITTLE BIT MANIPULATING YOUR HOPELESSNESS. HAVE A FANTABULOUS DAY.

Self referencing -hard but necessary

 

                                              

Yesterday I skipped posting the article, since I was busy elsewhere. So, today I am back with a double dose. Well in India its very common among people to blame "system is malfunctioned". It's the human nature to blame others when we are not brave enough to admit our faults. It's the simplest way to flee away from our responsibilities. We learn this tactics in our life for first when we were a child. We used to point toward our innocent siblings for the unorganized books and toys. But now we are no more a child, still that 'bad old habit never dies'. I am not emphasizing that we must continue doing these insensible behavior and also I admit that it's not possible to change entirely after reading this article.

 I have came up here by with an elegant conclusion. Don't revolutionize yourself rather try to make little evolution everyday constantly. One of my favorite author Robin Sharma has described it very beautifully as   '1% change everyday'. This is a quite simple way to bring positive changes in our self. It is same as how a curry differs from an age old pickle. Pickle is invaded by microbes and it changes it's chemical profile little by little everyday leading to a drastic changes in flavors, while curry is all about instant shock those those tender innocent veggies. Try to make pickle out of your nature, let the optimism evade your personality every day little by little. Don't forget that the pickles have shelf life greater than the curries. Bringing little changes in our self changes our approach life longer. 

People complaint for untidy locality but if every one started cleaning their own premises regularly automatically the problem will be solved. Let's do an experiment tomorrow morning if you are a late awaking celebrity ;), try waking up just 5 minutes before your daily schedule. If you succeed doing then definitely you are a creme de la creme : D. And progressively you shall be able to wake up 1 hour before than your's schedule ,it sounds wow. That's the greatness behind the concept of '1% change'. 


Hope tomorrow you will try doing the 'mission impossible' ,all the very best. Trust me, if you won then all other changes are waiting for you to try them. You will be soon a star for yourself and people are going to praise you lot for that.

AGAIN THANKS FOR THE PATIENCE. HAVE A NICE DAY.

REAL BEAUTY  

Have you ever thought about the correct meaning of beauty. If 'no' it's the time you must start the fathoming. However beauty lies in the observers mind but things need to be generalized when its context is with authenticity of humanity. What we see around us today is lot of rush in the cosmetic industry, its not bad to beautify our self but what if the limits cross the etiquette. I mean to say beauty either visual or psychological  both must serve the purpose to please the nature's creation. Well visual beauties are dice a dozen, but what I am searching is eternal beauty. It comes when we think good and act good. We need to apply the cream of good will and scrub out the evils to get a clear and glowing character. I want to share a fact here, generally in our Indian society we have a highest place for mother hood. At the country sides its a common sight when we see a woman working in a paddy field under hot blowing sun. She has got all her skin tanned and completely dehydrated, she don't even use any separate piece of cloth to wipe out the sweat , all she has is the rear end of her dupatta or saree. In spite of this harsh working condition which an urban woman couldn't even think about, whenever her baby under a tree's shade cries out of her hunger ;she runs toward her baby and once the toddler smile, she forget all her toil with a great satisfied smile on her face. I bet this smile on her face is more beautiful than any beauty pageant over the earth. She has an eternal beauty which need not any skin treatments or supplements and its ever lasting. An urban woman spending thousands per sitting in parlors could never achieve her standard of beauty. 

Its really important to look for the eternal beauty inside everyone. Its the most basic form of art to appreciate such beauty, rather than commenting over a flaunting fashionista girl. Everyone of us has read the fairy tales like Cinderella, Rapunzel etc , all they had in common is a beautiful mind which added a ton of glow to their face. Ever tired of trying lots of product to improve your facial glow?, just try my tip " think beautiful, act good" and this is really going to save your lot of investment over cosmetics. You will start noticing beauty every where no matter how does someone appear physically. When I tried to know the beauty secret of rural women , I always found that they are beautiful at their thoughts and have simplicity in their behavior, which make them a diva. 

So, please don't take my thoughts as an anti-cosmetic movement but what I need to emphasize here is improving the beauty of our thoughts and actions. 
Hope you realized the real meaning of beauty.

My Experience With 'FRUITS'

Fruits of my deeds

Again a lecture, well I know you may be thinking that this girl is upset with every aspect of life. But it is not so, its actually a trivia over analyzing nature. Remorse after committing  a mistake is common but what about worrying about the consequences in advance, it sounds like height of foolishness. Then its time for you to meet a foolish of that category...hey where are you gazing ,it me hehe. This is a part and parcel of those people characteristics who are coward. They are generally afraid of uncertain events that may get initiated at an entirely new turn in life. For example afraid of getting out of your home town, afraid of getting married, afraid of trying new hairstyle and so on. A famous soft drink advertisement features with a punch line "daar ke aage jeet hai" ( there is a victory beyond fear). It may have a commercial motto, but other side it has a deep inspiration in to that bottle hehe ( sorry for cracking a joke in between). Try a 'rambo' approach toward the situations. Fix it in your mind that life is not a pond rather it is a river. When you keep a timid approach toward life , you are just increasing the BOD of the river and gradually all true senses of life diminishes. 

Both the mistake and cowardliness towards decisions are sisters. They both give same consequence FRUSTRATION. Personally I have lost so many golden opportunities due to my cowardliness toward the decisions. Some time we must be prompt, act like a smart person; hope you are ;)  ( contradiction think twice before that but do not over analyze the consequences) . Well turning again to the title of this article, let me tell you honestly I have tasted many kinds of fruits ( out of my foolish deeds and decisions) and my appetite is over now hehe. Those fruits were quite bitter. I do not want my readers to taste those awkward fruits instead you better drink ' daar ke aage jeet hai ' if feeling hunger for success. 

Thanks for the patience you showed to read this 'khichdi' article.

Rehabilitation Of Mistakes 

Come on, be sensible toward life dear readers. Mistakes are something which makes us remember that we are simply human not a god. Show your gratitude  towards the mistakes you committed (contradiction, do not commit mistakes  intentionally).

In India it is said that God could not be present everywhere so he made mother, like wise my take on the mistake; a teacher may not be available with everyone and every time , so God made ‘mistakes’.

  It’s note worthy that mistakes are committed by those who try something innovative or for first time in the life.The humanity has always praised such people who tried different from others.  

  Those people had actually gave a leap  to our existence. Wright brothers surely faced many troubles for their

 invention, if they had surrendered no one of us today might have enjoyed an unnatural locomotive option for Homo sapiens sapiens.

Renowned non violence advocator Mahatma Gandhiji too faced lot of troubles at the initial stage  of swaraj approaches and off course few of his decision he might felt wrong  (again a mistake), but when the person takes responsibility for his mistakes  rather than mourning; HE BECOMES GREAT. 

Committing mistake may be not in our hands but its solution is really our own choice. From my personal side I have an example, I rejected admission at a university in spite of scoring highest in the entrance examination. I was disappointed due to my decision up to several days, but God has always planned better  things for us. Trust me after this foolish decision I became too serious for studies and as a consequence I cleared other national level exams like GATE, ARSNET, ARSB prelims and so on. Now my horizons have expanded and I have  option to pursue PhD from some famous institutes.

Life is not fair but its not bad too. 

It demands patience and broader approach some times. By giving some special tadka to your upcoming decisions really you may turn things  awesome.

During this critical period after you felt decided something wrong,we really become desperate. 

This short interval will never be a burden if you adore your family and friends. They act as a booster dose. As soon as you will recover  your faults, you going to thanks God for that ‘MISTAKE’. That mistake was  your mentor. Express gratitude toward it and enjoy the journey with full zeal.

AGAIN MY MESSAGE FOR YOU: BE OPTIMISTIC AND THE LIFE WILL BE A PARADISE

An angry survivor but not a pessimist

Damn world and the meanest people over the earth;

Its worth mention my bad temper that inspired me to write this article. Always this bad one has been making me an angry pretty girl. It makes suffer from VICTIMITIS INFINITUS. 

Well the people close to me know very well about that pretty angry girl more than me, probably the reason behind that is that bad form is the shield of a poor girl which she uses unintentionally to save herself from the mean and really hurting words. People write out great novels out of the odd conditions, so its happening with me.Trust me currently my fingers running over keyboard like melting butter stick over hot pan.

 I need not to think what to write that’s the best part of EMOTIONAL WRITING. 

The starting line of the article may hurt the readers but please admit the fact that we are unable to understand people. A person with 1000 good character is always criticized for his or her single weak point. 

Why is it so. I think we must accept people as God has configured them.

Come on grow up flocks ,its nature and it demands diversity.The symmetrical things are the property of man made and artificial creations. And I am sure human are not man made ;well this line may be quite fathoming.

so I suggest the reader to take it as it is written.

So, its the time I must come to the point. I am'nt  an  artificial creation; in other words I too obey the laws of nature. 

I am a lot different from you and vice verse. Its not a crime to be unique but from my personal experiences I want to say sometime people treat it as an advantage to hurt us. I am satisfied the way God has configured me. Being a human I have lot of good features and off course bad ones too. But it really hurts when someone make me feel dump due to the things which are really part of my configuration. I have always balanced my life balanced in spite of those bad counterparts by making few modifications. Here by I reveal that worst thing about me - its nothing but simply a childish approach toward life.
I eat little portions whatever it may be but trust me I never stay hungry.My appetite is as sharp as an alarm clock. And I trust people so easily  and starts caring for them. Now let me humbly tell you about my strong points that God has gifted me( a short list). I am very strong at academics, have very high stamina to struggle , always oriented toward my goals, curious and creative, quickly grasp any new subject,a yoga lover ,good at dancing, drawing ,writing, orating, very sharp sense of humor ,good at acting , very ambitious and creative when I start cooking, and by look ( as others say) pretty and childish. Sorry for making you read such a lengthy list ;). So , now I want my readers to justify “ Is it wrong if a girl who is good at almost everything to have such a immature eating habits” and I want to state it clearly that I always manipulate this bad one to make people feel normal with me. Even tough its has always been a point to hurt me. 

Right from the childhood  I am unsocial.

I have been raised in campus type areas where hardly people reside and its the reason why I don't have any  friend circle. I never been with friends so that I may come to know how do the girls of age think or act.   After leaving the school or college I used to stay at home whole day and what I do at home whole day-  sleep, eat, study , play study and sleep. Its always been a monotonous life for me since childhood. But during my post graduates I got a golden chance to make a social revolution in my life. Yippee I was at hostel but guess what, first one year I could not adapt this social shock. 

 It was during 2nd year of pg that I got lot of friends, life was like awesome. For first time in life I realized that its true that human is a social animal. Its was just a short sweet story, again I was at my home alone far from my temporary social adobe. Life doesn't permit us to experience good things for long duration. It has been 1 year I completed my pg and I was at home learning for several competitive exams and wandering metros and other states for entrance exams. Mean while my life gave me an another unpleasant news.  I was an aspiring gold medalist according to the news that was conveyed to me. But don't know what happened to the transparency of that renowned university,things went really unfair. So again I lost my trust over the society (Damn world and the meanest people over the earth).

I want to remind  that nature’s biggest rule is ‘change’ and being a nature’s creation i too obey that.  Some people influences in such a way that the sorrows vanishes. I too have met a person who is an introvert like me but not all impatience and unstable. Infatuation has played a role in making us meet again. 

It's alwayscalming experience when we sit beside a beloved one. Its like a therapy when we share our thoughts with those beloved beings. God bless U.

Yesterday  all that magic happened which was everlasting. 
Good things have short expiry time, so all it ended very soon and now again a sweet interval till next crash. 

There is a constant search for gaps from where we could slide down into a memorable meets. 

It is quite weird the first stanza of the article was full of frustration and now the mood has gone ‘shalalala’. Again it proves the hypothesis that the nature is the biggest magician and it could do miracles within seconds. 

Well I must return to the topic and it was related to achieving goals in life in spite of being hurt by heartless dishonest system. Being an Indian right from childhood I have watched in movies about a rich and influential villan and how do he try to defeat the hero but by virtue of his talent and good will the climax turns in the favor of hero. It is not abstract theme and honestly it’s an original case scenario in India. People when turn rich they try to dominate others, these all are the consequences of limited resources ( remember the rule ‘survival of the fittest’). But here an little manipulation that people have defined fitness in their own way. Vicious cycle, which is less prominent in western world has a big part to play in India. When a cassette falls it starts colliding with the next level in society and within short time entire system collapses. The first momentum is always contributed by rich & fat section of society but every time it ends with demolishing the weakest section. I described all these phenomenon to make realize them that where did I stood in the cassette when the university snatched my reward and where did my unhealthy competitor. 

 The history has been always evident that sufferers are no longer victims, they evolve into a prominent personalities. So I think God has done all these with me in order to make me a strong girl who can easily adapt to bad time and continuously move toward brighter future. This statement is not a self condolence but its a proven psychological fact that ‘think positive and you will get the best’.

 I am just getting started as a blogger, hope the readers enjoy my true feelings without noticing the grammar mistakes :D. Please feel free to comment and share your valuable thoughts.