An anchored feather

Title must be bifurcating, it has a different prospective for people with extrovert and frank nature. Well,  feathers in nature are always anchored with the bird, but I’m talking about an individual residue.  Let’s take our thinking and actions as feather , it has full degree of freedom to flew away in direction the wind blows. But it does not make any sense until and unless we are able to anchor it with a certain code of 

conducts and etiquette.

 It actually make us a human and it’s absence makes the creature as an animal. In other words I may tell it as self discipline or self control over our own senses. This quality is so much essential for a good  leader,  good entrepreneur  and more over a good human. Lack of control over our desires may flew the feather in a wrong direction leading to lot of troubles and loss of predetermined goals of our life. Our very first lesson for such self discipline was taught when our parents admitted us to school. We start leading our life according to a time table, no matter how careless is a child towards his class works but anyhow he or she comes in contact with a prescribed schedule. I don't believe in suffocating and suppressing kids which hampers their childhood but under a kind guidance they must be introduced to punctuality  and self discipline. Even army officer's training is nothing but oriented toward making them capable of taking right decisions in odd conditions and that comes when they are trained to practice self discipline. Every innovator or a successful person achieved only because they channelized route for achievement with the help of a tool called self discipline. It's really disappointing to say that the most of the criminal cases arise only because the guilty had no control over his anger and temperament. They just killed someone out their bad temper, it sounds wired that people  rather than controlling their own temper try to cancel out others existence. The examples for such scenario are so much in number. 

Our religious scripts are mainly focused to make our mind calm and impart a self controlled approach toward the dilemmas arising everyday in life . That's the thing we must remind before praying in front of God, otherwise please do not disturb the Almighty. 

My conclusion for this article is 'being human' is nothing but 'only those with self control', otherwise next time you find a tee for you with punch word 'being animal'. Sorry for my words, but you question yourself whether I am wrong or right.

Thanks for reading my harsh comments, have a nice day.

OVER EXPECTATIONS 

It's human nature to rely on the people surrounding us, that is not uncommon but things goes strange when the term 'rely' is replaced by 'over expectations'. Expectation is an outcome of inputs that we have given for the results whereas over expectation is an abstract awaiting for miracles to happen in spite of zero input. Everyone of us knows the Newton's third law 'every action has equal and opposite reaction'. When actually you have toiled for some results, it comes out with same intensity and as a result we get satisfactory. But in the case if we have not spent enough energy for getting a desired outcome and still waiting to get an elephant out of hen's egg, its a foolishness. Definitely it is going to dis motivate for your goals. Keep a weighing balance inspired approach in your life. On one plate you are placing your hard work and proportionately you will get the results. It's damn easy in such a way to avoid over expectations. Over expecting from ourselves is a crime then what about over expecting from others. Certainly I shall call it the height of foolishness. 

We generally mislead sympathy of some people as affection and dreaming about their assistance or favors. And when things turn opposite we feel break down. As a result of such heart break, we loses our working stamina and consequently it leads to failures. Generally we blame this failure as a misfortune created by the person from whom we expected and further it leads to ruining of the relations. So it's a vicious cycle of emotions. Okay, if over expectations have such a disappointing results, why do we opt for it. The reason behind it is a child inside us and that one is so lazy to carry out his own work, he wanna rely on mommy for tying his shoe lace. Are you grown up, if yes then don't repeat this mistake , tie your shoe lace yourself. You will fail once, twice or thrice but at fourth chance definitely you shall succeed. Now you don't need mamma :D. 

Next time when you feel like over expecting from someone, remember that the person too have his own sort of problem. He is probably struggling more than you, so try to give him his personal space to deal with. It shall never worsen your relations rather giving a little gap will enhance your  understanding.

That's all for today, but stay tuned there are more upcoming lessons I wanna share with my lovely readers.

Have a nice and fruitful day.