a good heart: means You help too much, you trust too much, you give too much, you love too much and it always seems like you’re  the one who gets hurt the most.

REINVENT FEMININITY

Be a woman who need not to beg others to take care of you, rather people must beg you for your divine presence in their life.

DESIRE VS REQUIREMENT

An age old argument for human has been a topic 'desire'. It is not taught at any stage of life, but acquired as we come across worldly attachments. It was a toy when we were child and now it has extended it's limits so far. Desire is a temptation which arises when we fails to balance our requirements. So, it is must to understand the difference between requirement and desire. Wishing for a piece of bread and butter when hungry is requirement , whereas wishing for a dessert after meal is desire. Desire may curb our level of humanity, as it is selfish one. It doesn't look into exact scenario, rather than quenching it's own demands. 

By the way it is contradictory that human civilization has built its science,art and technology based empire on the able guidance of desire to lead better life. But, inventions are always the consequence of needs. So, it may be said that invention of telephone by Graham Bell was a consequence of need, whereas eye candies smart phone now a days in market are consequence of desire to achieve more and more sophisticated & lethargic life. Every need beyond it's limit transforms into desire. And when desire comes into play, it expands day after day and at last leading to that big bang.

Human emotions are always a form of desires, that's why they lead to pain in odd conditions. A motherly affection toward child is a requirement since the new one has to be introduced to love and emotions, but the same child transforms his acquired emotions into desire when he starts neglecting his needs. So, in order to avoid desires, it's essential to correctly value our needs. Once the desire build nest in our mind, it is hard to evacuate that. So, prevention is better than cure.

HOPE YOU STARTED REALIZING THE NEEDS.

ISOLATED ONE

Isolation is generally believed to bring out the more intellectual side of us, only and only if accompanied by control over our perceptions. Isolation may enlighten us or may even ruin. But what about such a life where you don't find life around you and feeling stuck in a zombie world. Everyone just want us to be perfect at work and toil to starve. Isolation need not to be a term when we are alone but it may also be a situation when in spite of living in a crowded place you find no one able to understand us. Reckless professional expectations, trying to stretch our capacities in foolish way, over expectations at results, greed to achieve more and more etc have made us isolated even in the crowd. Humble feelings and relations are the wonder tonic for such complexions. An unconditional love, warm hug this is what all we need to keep loneliness at bay. Hectic race for fame has made human a machine constantly squeezing his talents to fetch glory. But a balanced approach for life truly bring positive side of life. We are not ready to sacrifice for our loved ones, just all we need is to thrive for the success. Try doing little sacrifices and later you will find your world within a single person. That is the stage where even presence of your loved one will make you feel heaven  in the hell.

There by it may be concluded that loneliness is just a state of mind rather than a physical thing. Either we must create a mind set up dedicated to our faith/love or engage yourself busy in social life. The second option will give you an instant but temporary satisfaction. So, better we try dedicating our self to the script less language (love) and see our world in their smile.

SHOULD I?

Nature has designed we humans to explore her cryptic features. So, curiosity is the part and parcel of us. Once a question knocks our mind, we become curious and impatient for the things to be known. And I strongly believe that we must explore for getting the answers. But most of us have an another trait which commands us 'why should I ?'. That's the point where we sink the genius within us. Do not suppress your curiosity, but let it ignite the dark chambers within our mind and enlighten knowledge. In fact curiosity is the driving force which made us human diversify from other ordinary life forms. The history is evident that whenever curiosity or thirst for knowing new things have arisen, there bloomed a big bang called 'revolution'. 

That's the reason why sailors sailed out of the odd conditions and reached unknown lands which led to construction of unified globe. Curious brains in past dared exploring myths in new ways and led to scientific discoveries. They never thought 'why should I pioneer this uncertain adventure' and just think what would be consequences if they ever thought like this. Well, it's human nature to flee away the uncertain things that are supposed to cause danger to existence. But, again I would remind the readers 'darr ke aage jeet hai' (beyond fear lies victory) and it's my damn favorite punch line derived from a soft drink commercial. Those pioneering sailors and scientists belonged that specific trait who believe in 'darr ke aage jeet hai'. We must thank them everyday for such a brave decisions. The fuel which energized them against the hidden danger was 'curiosity' and it's great to tame the curiosity within us rather than neglecting it. It is not mandatory that only a genius can be a scientist or an achiever, but the trait which is more important is curiosity. 

So, next time when any question hit your mind, don't kick it away rather nourish it and explore for the answer.

LET’S  PLAY  LIFE

Since childhood everyone of us has nourished a playful innocent intention toward the moments in life. Gradually it is suppressed due to our mature side of personality, but I'm sure it never diminishes. Bringing out that childish thing out of us is the main reason why we spent time and money in outings,camping, picnics, watching sport etc. What I understand is there is no need to do such extravagances to pop out  childhood within us, all we need is a everyday approach conversion from a serious being to a sensible kid. 

Try making your colleagues, friends, kids, laugh at the moment which seems like a headache. For doing so  you may have to turn into a clown, but trust me you will get tremendous happiness when someone tensed  laugh out due to your behavior. That’s all we need to keep the child within us alive. Your medical bill shall  also cut down if you ever tried doing these mischievous things. People will definitely suggest to ‘grow up’  but they will soon realize themselves as lucky to get such an amazing personality as their friend. You might  have watched  how does a DJ turns the disk and brings out amazing music out a regular song. So be a DJ of  your life, turn briskly your sense of humor and good mood and everyone will rock in your’s party. A  monotonous life will soon be a everyday dazzling colorful party. You will soon feel your workplace as a  dance floor and your heavy stuffed laptop as a turntable disc. Then no more you will face Monday blues or weekend antsy. No matter if your employer has nominated you for best employee of the year, but sure your colleagues will declare you as the rock star.

So, what are you waiting for, lets party and rock at office. Have a joyful day.

An anchored feather

Title must be bifurcating, it has a different prospective for people with extrovert and frank nature. Well,  feathers in nature are always anchored with the bird, but I’m talking about an individual residue.  Let’s take our thinking and actions as feather , it has full degree of freedom to flew away in direction the wind blows. But it does not make any sense until and unless we are able to anchor it with a certain code of 

conducts and etiquette.

 It actually make us a human and it’s absence makes the creature as an animal. In other words I may tell it as self discipline or self control over our own senses. This quality is so much essential for a good  leader,  good entrepreneur  and more over a good human. Lack of control over our desires may flew the feather in a wrong direction leading to lot of troubles and loss of predetermined goals of our life. Our very first lesson for such self discipline was taught when our parents admitted us to school. We start leading our life according to a time table, no matter how careless is a child towards his class works but anyhow he or she comes in contact with a prescribed schedule. I don't believe in suffocating and suppressing kids which hampers their childhood but under a kind guidance they must be introduced to punctuality  and self discipline. Even army officer's training is nothing but oriented toward making them capable of taking right decisions in odd conditions and that comes when they are trained to practice self discipline. Every innovator or a successful person achieved only because they channelized route for achievement with the help of a tool called self discipline. It's really disappointing to say that the most of the criminal cases arise only because the guilty had no control over his anger and temperament. They just killed someone out their bad temper, it sounds wired that people  rather than controlling their own temper try to cancel out others existence. The examples for such scenario are so much in number. 

Our religious scripts are mainly focused to make our mind calm and impart a self controlled approach toward the dilemmas arising everyday in life . That's the thing we must remind before praying in front of God, otherwise please do not disturb the Almighty. 

My conclusion for this article is 'being human' is nothing but 'only those with self control', otherwise next time you find a tee for you with punch word 'being animal'. Sorry for my words, but you question yourself whether I am wrong or right.

Thanks for reading my harsh comments, have a nice day.